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dealing with cps in the beginning {investigation}

the number one most important rule when dealing with cps is simple.  never fail a drug test. EVER. 

if cps comes knocking, and you find yourself unprepared to take a drug test 

, POLITELY AND RESPECTFULLY end the interaction.  you can say that they showed up as  you were just leaving to pick your dog from the vet or your husband from work s, something important enough to leave over and reschedule… just so that you aren’t coming off as avoidant.  you don’t want to give them the run around because they’ll catch on to that and then just end up going to the school to talk to the kids.  

and this is an important thing we will have to get back too. cps and your kids at school.   but well get back to that.

for now,  were making up an excuse to not have these people bombard you unexpectantly and put you in a corner.  things can get out of control pretty fast with cps.  so you want to make sure you have the ball in your hands as much as possible.  

BUT NEVER EVER EVER TELL THEM TO GET A COURT ORDER for anything!   because they will get one…. at 6pm on a sunday with no problems at all.  and when that happens things will spiral out of control so be as compliant as necessary. but not so much that you forget that you have rights, and they have protocol to follow.   

when you reschedule,  and if you still don’t think you can pass a mouth swab or ua,  reschedule again.   make up something.  say that your dog ate a hot wheel and you have to rush him to the er,  you want it to be something important but not  something damaging to your image or your parental ability…try not to reschedule more than twice… because yes eventually meeting with them is probably something you’re gonna want to do in order to get them off your back easily. 

because avoiding them will just cause suspicion and then they will enhance their effort of trying to get ahold of you and your kids.   and you don’t want that.   especially if it can be avoided.  

sometimes just one time meeting with them and one passed drug test will allow them to close the case and rule out any allegation they’re investigating. making that the end of it.  easy peasy. 

 but other times its not,  so when you’re at the stage to meet with them, just meet with them.  or completely avoid them for the next 60 days, because thats how long they have to investigate and if they never made contact they still have to close the case.. but if another one comes up they’re going to be way more aggressive in finding you. so the best option is just getting it over with if you can.   but you have to be smart because these people are dangerous and they have a lot of power behind them.  a lot of sometimes unfair and misused power in my personal opinion. 

you have the options to meet them at your home or at their office.  personally i always offer to meet them at their office.  but    if they insist on coming to the house just understand that you do not have to allow that.  but if you do, 

*** make sure your house is clean.  let me say this again MAKE SURE YOUR HOUSE IS CLEAN.  

***anything that poses any kind of safety threat to your kids should be taken care of before cps sees it.  

***make sure you have food in the fridge,  food in the cabinets.  **make sure the kids rooms are tidy and have age appropriate TOYS available 

**make sure they have clothes in their closet..

 you don’t have to make your house spotless but if you have dirty diapers and dog shit everywhere you’re gonna wanna clean that shit up… obviousy… 

while they are in your  house, it is not normal or ok for them to be going thru your drawers,and or medicine cabinets, so don’t allow that behavior.  

you have the right to end the meeting with them at any time by politely asking them to leave. try not to be hostile or rude, but at the same time you must be assertive. 

  and any interaction with them is best recorded!

you can put wifi cameras in the living room or use your phone to record everything.  but as they walk inside just tell them that you have cameras in the house and that you will be recording every interaction with them to ensure the safety of your family.   if you tell them once you don’t have to say it again. but you must tell them!!   

its important to write down everything in a spiral specifically for cps.  you want to write down everything.  

**dates of when you first met with them,

** time and date of any missed calls or completed phone calls, 

**direct quotes of important information,

** names both first and last and their role in the department.

cps has changed a lot over the years, as the job used to require a social worker with an accredited degree, but now they hire just about anyone,  and train them specifically for their job titles.  

so during the length of your case it will be normal to have different people in charge.  

a further explanation of this is that the first person that gets the case is the investigator”   which is who gets the allegation against you and is responsible for locating you and discovering the validity of the information they have. they’re also the ones who decide if making a safety plan is necessary. but they only have 60 days to open and close the case.  so if you can avoid them do it, but if you’re kids go to school and you can’t avoid them, then its imperative that you do not fail a drug test.  and follow the above advice and you should be able to get them away from you pretty easily,    

but if something happens and you find yourself in a situation where they’re telling you to sign a safety plan then its first important that you understand exactly what it means.  AND YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SEEK LEGAL COUNSEL BEFORE YOU SIGN ANYTHING!!   don’t allow yourself to be bullied into signing.if you don’t understand what you’re signing.  because they will try to do that.  but once you sign that document it becomes legally binding, and you will have to adhere to whatever they put it in. so its important that you know exactly what they want… 

a safety plan is the first step of removal. 

this is the option they give you when the investigator finds a reason to believe that the allegations are true.  a safety plan allows the kids to be in the home as long as you have someone to supervise everything.  they can be as vague as they want so try to make them be precise and clearly state what is expected of you and how long they’re going to expect it of you  so that everything is understood. 

if you don’t have anyone that is willing to be on the safety plan or anyone that cps approves for whatever reason, THEY WILL TAKE YOUR KIDS FROM YOUR HOME RIGHT THEN AND THERE. 

and this will be the result of a failed drug test, so don’t fail a drug test. 

cps will tell you no if the person you pick

** has ever had a cps case and they lost their kids… 

**they will say no to a person with felonies.  even if they’ve happened over 20 years ago. 

**they will say no to a person with medical problems that they might think could impair their abilities to provide supervision. 

so make sure you have someone in your corner that can help you and are willing to hep you,  

but its important to note that this kind of thing often drives a wedge between you and the person you pick.  so make sure that this person is TRULLY on your side and not actively working against you, ((but often times you won’t find this information out until you experience it.))

but lets back uo a little bit and talk about your school aged children and how you can handle  investigation process of your school aged children.  

if your kids are in school you’re gonna want to protect them while they’re there.  ITS SO IMPORTANT TO TEACH YOUR KIDS A SAFETY WORD.  a secret word that only you and your child know that tells the child that who they are talking to isn’t a bad guy trying to steal them away so they could eat their brain and boil they’re toes, or whatever story that works for you guys.. 

  once you both have a word to use , make sure your kid knows not tell anyone the secret word, and only to talk to  people who know the secret word. and that no matter how nice and fun this person may seem, they need to wait to say anything to them until you get there,  which brings us to this next very important thing to do

  you then are going to want to submit a few handwritten letters to multiple staff members at the school,  

like the teacher

the nurse 

the principal 

the assistant principal

 the teacher assistant 

the secretary

 and whomever else you feel necessary,  those people for sure tho.

And in this handwritten letter you are to clearly state

 who you are

 who your child is what grade and who the teacher is 

and say that  UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES WHAT SO EVER, DO YOU ALLOW ANY VISITORS  TO HAVE ANY DIRECT  CONTACT  WITH YOUR KIDS WITHOUT FIRST BEING NOTIFIED  AND RECEIVING CONFIRMATION VIA PHONE CALL OR LETTER  AND OR BEING PRESENT FOR THIS INTERACTION. you are to clearly state that in the event a visitor were to  interact and or converse with your child without the school getting in contact with you first,  that you will take it as a direct violation to your human rights as well as a breach of contract between you and the schools ability to provide for the safety of your child while in their care,  and that you are prepared to pursue legal action against them.   

otherwise they will have and be within their legal authority to visit your child at he school without telling you anything. 

which is bad for a number of reasons which i will explain further.